Years ago, I learned how much we all have a tendency to live like orphans. Despite the fact that we are loved sons or daughters. Sometimes because of life and and a lack of understanding our own value, we tend to end up trying to live for ourselves. In so doing I’ve found that in my case when I don’t truly see how much my parents and family love me, I end up seeking approval from people. We do this in many different ways. 

For example, we try to perform well to please family, friends, or co-workers. Or we try hard to cover up our bad performances by concealing the whole truth. We may use laughter and humor so that people will like us more. At times, we may also use flattery, subtle boasting, or fishing for compliments. Some of us withdraw and become quiet, while others act outgoing and important, all in order to “score approval points.” 

Whatever the case, seeking approval involves any attempt to prove to ourselves, others, and those around us that we’re okay.